Navigating the Inadvertent Mail
It's a frustrating and often painful experience: you're sifting through the day's mail, and amidst the bills and junk flyers, you find a piece of mail addressed to a loved one who has been gone for years. Or, perhaps, it's addressed to a previous resident of your home. You've asked for them to be removed from the lists, but the mail keeps coming. You might wonder, "How is this still happening? Don't these companies know?"
The answer lies in the complex, often-outdated world of mailing lists. I know this from personal experience, as I send out a large number of mailers each year for Medicare Open Enrollment. And every year, I receive a handful of calls from kind, but understandably upset, people who have received a letter or postcard addressed to their deceased parent or spouse.
Let me be clear: this is never intentional. The goal is to provide helpful information to people who are eligible for Medicare, not to cause distress. But the reality is, mailing lists are a messy business.
Why It's So Hard to Get Off a Mailing List
Think of a mailing list as a photograph—a snapshot in time. The companies that compile and sell these lists gather data from a vast number of sources: public records, magazine subscriptions, credit card companies, and other commercial data brokers. This information is a patchwork of data from different points in time.
The problem is, this data doesn't get updated automatically. A death certificate, for example, doesn't get instantly shared with every commercial database. Similarly, someone moving out of a home doesn't automatically mean their name is removed from every mailing list. The data used is often old, and the systems for updating it are far from perfect.
From the perspective of a small business or individual who purchases these lists, it's a "take it or leave it" situation. The lists are provided as a whole, and there's no easy way to edit or remove names from the master file. While a business can keep its own "do not mail" list for people who call to complain, that only stops mail from that specific business. It does nothing to prevent mail from other companies that have purchased the same outdated list.
What You Can Do to Stop the Mail
If you want to stop mail from being sent to a deceased loved one or to a previous resident, you have to be proactive. The burden is, unfortunately, on the consumer to get names removed from these databases. Here's what you can do:
Register with the Deceased Do Not Contact List (DDNC). This is the single most effective step you can take. The DDNC is managed by the Association of National Advertisers (ANA). For a small fee, you can register a deceased person's name and address. This list is then used by a large number of direct marketing companies to remove names from their databases.
Contact Direct Marketing Companies Individually. If you continue to receive mail from a specific company, call or email them and ask to have the name removed from their mailing list. The more mail you get, the more companies you'll have to contact, but this can be effective in the long run.
Opt-Out of Prescreened Credit and Insurance Offers. Many credit and insurance offers come from lists provided by the three major credit bureaus (Equifax, Experian, TransUnion). You can permanently opt a person out of these offers at optoutprescreen.com or by calling 1-888-5-OPT-OUT (1-888-567-8688).
Use the "Deceased, Return to Sender" Method. For any mail that continues to arrive, write "Deceased, Return to Sender" on the envelope and put it back in the mailbox. The U.S. Postal Service will return it to the sender, who should then update their records.
While the process can feel tedious, taking these steps can significantly reduce the amount of unwanted mail you receive. It's a small but meaningful way to take control of your mailbox and prevent the unnecessary pain of receiving mail for someone who is no longer with you.
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